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The Dating Etiquette for Men: How to Have a Great Dinner Date

No matter how confusing and complicated today’s dating scene may be, there are basic rules that remain alive and can make or break one’s potential relationship. While various dating approaches are practiced in Singapore today, speed dating for example, the traditional dinner date still counts the most. Having good manners is crucial for men, whom ladies expect to still possess a spirit of chivalry. Therefore, it pays to review the basics of making a simple dinner date a success.


1. Let your date talk. When your date is talking, allow her to share her thoughts and, most importantly, let her finish her sentences. This basic rule is often overlooked as a lot of men insert their comments in the middle of their partner’s sentences, criticize her opinions, and adamantly present points of view that are counter to that of their partners. Make her feel that you are genuinely interested in what she has to say and that you listen. Make the effort to observe how you talk and react to your date, if you catch yourself making whiny comments while interrupting her then, please, by all means, make a change.

2. Keep your phone away. Refraining from using your phone while on a date is a golden rule and etiquette for everybody, especially for men. This is not only a sign of courtesy but of gratitude too. You see, a woman decided to spend her precious time with you when she can actually be doing something else or out with someone else! But she chose to be with you and that is something you should be thankful for. So, men, breaking the eye contact just to check your phone isn’t only being disrespectful but you are making her feel that you are bored or maybe you can’t wait to end the date because you’re running after something else.

3. Ask her questions. A date was invented to know someone you are interested in better. Make use of it by asking about her, maybe her interests, experiences or opinion. In that way, you will probably learn how cool she is or that she isn’t the one you can actually be with. But you’ll never get to that state of conclusion if you don’t ask about her. Of course you are entitled to talk about yourself and when you do, talk positively and be interesting but do not lie. And when you are through talking about yourself, get back to asking her.


4. Offer to pay. To start with, from the time you mustered the courage to ask her, “May I take you out on a dinner?” the agreement has been established…you were the one who invited her out to a dinner. Later, when the check arrives, offer to pay the bill politely and if she asks you if you want to split it, you can say “No, that’s really nice of you but I invited you out.” Well, it could end there but if she insists, you can ask if she’s certain about it and wait… if she confirms, carefully muster the control and grace to say, “alright, thank you.”

5. Compliment her looks. You both know it’s going to be a date and women, will surely prepare and stare in front of a mirror for an extensive period to look good. So, when you meet her, float some genuine and respectful, “you look great!” for sure, she really does. After all, it’s a date and it’s normal to be flirty, charming and fun, so strike that and make a positive impression!


How to End a Relationship without Being Cruel

As a song goes, there is no easy way to break somebody’s heart. Without a second thought, breakups really suck. But how we put an ending to this not-so-happy ending is very crucial not only to our soon-to-be ex’s healing but ours, too. We can make separation a little less cruel by mustering cordiality and right attitude towards the person we are cutting ties with. If the approach is done right, the emotional injuries we caused and experienced will likely heal faster and feel lighter.


1.       Have a face-to-face conversation

No matter how difficult it can be, you have to master the guts and be prepared to start that awkward “we need to end this” conversation with your partner. Although social media has made our lives so much easier, you owe it to your partner to (wo)man up the discomfort in person and show some humanly respect.

As you do this, make sure to come up with few things that will help your partner get a good understanding of how you were able to come up with such decision. You have to have a firm sense of what it is that makes you feel resentful, what you are in search for but also what was great about the relationship and your partner. Trying to highlight the good things from the past and admitting your part in the breakup can help prevent your partner from being hard on you.

2.       Empathize with the pain

The breakup itself is going to be hard for both of you and it would not hurt if you add some emotional empathy or validation. Be tactful when you utter the lines, “I understand this is hard,” “I know where you are coming from,” “I feel bad that we reached this point.” These all confirms an honest discussion of what you truly feel without pointing a finger to your partner. You communicate that what you are doing is never easy and that you just have to do it now to save both of you from a greater pain in the long term.


3.       End it with clarity

If there is one sure-fire thing that should be communicated about the breakup then it is clarity. This means that you should commit to an end. No looking back. At times, breakups become ambiguous because choice of words and takeaways do not clarify whether the relationship is truly over temporarily or for good. This on and off the relationship mentality can cause more disappointment with your love life and hamper you from truly moving on.

Again, breakups are by no means a piece of cake and ruining its manner of ending is even worse. Science has confirmed that getting dumped is one of the most painful human feelings, ever—it’s a strong rejection. But you have the power to mitigate how you split the tie and make it less traumatic for both of you.


Simple Ways to Seduce Men

Scattered red roses, dim light, lighted candles and sexy music may be the words that come in your mind once you hear the word “seduction.” You are right, for these mentioned seduction techniques are really popular. However, there are other ways to seduce men which are all very simple, and do not need much effort.


Dress up more than your normal pyjamas by wearing sexy lingerie on a very normal night. Make sure to freshen up, and apply some of your fragrant lotions and moisturizers. Tuck your hair in a messy bun showing your nape. According to studies, men are more attracted to women who are showing their necks. Do these before you go to bed, while your partner is in the shower. He will surely be attracted to your smell and your different look.


Tell your partner to sit beside you in your bed, hold his back, and whisper words like “I miss you” or “You look sexy.” Slowly massage his back from his shoulders down to his spine while continuously whispering words of love and desire. The spine has very sensitive nerves which are connected to different parts of the body. This will turn him on.

Another twist would be not waiting for your partner to get out of the shower. What you can do to seduce him is to go in the shower wearing only an oversized shirt. Join him in the shower while the wet shirt traces your body. You do not need to say anything; your action says it all.