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Reasons behind Cheaters

As much as we want to live honestly here in Singapore, cheating or infidelity still happens and it should be curbed before it infects the whole society. One example of a very common infidelity act is the Ashley Madison’s “have an affair”. This is owned by Avid Life Media, a Canadian company offering a very peculiar service for adultery seekers. Others see it as indecency or immorality while others say otherwise.


To date, Ashley Madison has more than thirty three million users around the world with its catchphrase “Life is short. Have an affair”. However, Ashley Madison recently faced a cyber-attack. “the Impact Team”, a group of hackers want to put it down thereby threatening to leak the private data like customer records, profiles, nude pictures, real names, addresses, credit card transactions and the like.

We have to know that there are many reasons behind the cheating. We have to know the reasons not to understand cheaters or incriminate them. We have to understand the reasons behind infidelity so it can help us avoid the damage it will cause. Here are the reasons:

  • Individual reasons: Researchers believe that there are some qualities about a person that makes him/her commit infidelity and this is determined by variety of risk factors like gender. It is said that men are more likely to commit infidelity than women and this is because men have more testosterone which is linked to a strong desire to have sex. Personality is also the reason why many are engaged in infidelity.


  • Relationship issues: People cheat because they find that their present relationship is unsatisfying. According to researchers, relationships that have high conflict and unfulfilled sex are more prone to infidelity. It does not end there because dissimilar partners – in terms of education level, status and other factors are susceptible to infidelity.
  • Situational reasons: We are curious why a perfectly happy relationship still suffer infidelity .This happens especially if the environment that we are living in puts us at risk for infidelity. Spending time in settings with many attractive people or many infidels make cheating more likely. We also need to think of the nature of employment.

Infidels only know the reasons behind their actions. Partners should recognize these factors so we can talk about it. The effort of evading from this damaging situation should come from both sides. If in this case we are struggling with infidelity – whether a victim or a participant, we have to get help before it totally destroy our relationship and family.


The Rule of Guarding your Heart

This may sound so obvious but still we cannot help ourselves to be tempted to do things that will sooner or later break our heart. It is really for prevention is better than cure.


Guard your heart, when someone you like has a girlfriend.

Have you ever experience to like a guy who has a girlfriend already? Then your friends will tell you that it is ok to like him and they even help you to get his attention. They will also assure you that as long as they are not married, you can still have him. Well, that is a lie that everybody believes in. Aside from being iniquitous to the girlfriend, you will surely end up being broken hearted because either ways he will not like you back or if ever you win against the girlfriend, you will always have the fear of him leaving you for someone else. No good relationship starts with ruthless conflicts.



Guard your heart, when someone you like has a wife.

Please, this is really something that every woman should put in her mind. When the guy has a wife already, better leave them alone. Even though he seems like he is your dream guy, you have no right to intercede in their marriage life. Even if the guy likes you also, better control yourself and find ways to get out of the picture.

Guard your heart, when someone you like doesn’t believe on the things that you believe in.

You better invest your feelings to someone who believes on those things that you believe in, for in the long run this is very essential. Let say, you are a Christian and he is not,  how will you tell him that you have to cancel your movie date because you have to  go to a church mates house to have  a bible study? He might not understand why you should do those kinds of things.