How Can We Handle Rejection Better?

Whether it’s for a job or a romantic relationship, we experience rejection many times throughout our lives. You can’t deny that you’ve never been rejected. In Singapore and even all around the world today, the effect of being rejected is somehow being magnified simply because of the internet. We use social media, for example, to connect with others and gain their attention. So, how can we take a step back and handle rejection better?

Have a backup plan

If you’re the kind of person who gets over rejection easily, you’ll know that having a backup plan possibly the most practical way to handle rejection. If you get rejected, you can easily go to plan B and keep moving from there. This, of course, applies to getting rejected from a job and the like, but not with relationships. Got rejected by the girl you like? Move on to girl B – this is a big no-no. Don’t go around and be a heartbreaker!

Expect rejection but accept it if it does happen

Simply put, you simply should not assume anything until the decision is final. Expect to fail just as much as you expect to succeed, because that’s just the way life is. This makes it easier for you to take in rejection. If you do get rejected and it’s unbelievably painful for you emotionally, then acknowledge it instead of bottling it all up. This way, you can let that negativity flow through you instead of keeping it in your thoughts.

Do activities that help you think positively

Obviously, thinking positively does more than just help you get over rejection. When you’re always positive, you won’t fear rejection, rather you’ll easily be able to reflect on the reasons behind you getting rejected. With that, choose to do hobbies and activities that you enjoy. You can go to karaokes, paint cycle or hike around park connectors, just anything that you like to do. Doing activities that you like help you relieve some stress and more importantly, keeps your thoughts positive.

Dissociate rejection and pain

You’ll find this easier following the point above about thinking positively. If you learn to separate the feeling of pain from rejection, you will be better able to reflect on yourself. You will learn to see which patterns in your behavior and attitude can lead to you being rejected. Basically, you use rejection as a learning experience because it simply is a learning experience.

Consider opportunities with the least chance you’ll be rejected

Let’s say, for example, you applied for 6 jobs and did not get accepted one at all. This might sound really depressing on your side, but there are a lot of things to consider still. You are a fresh graduate from a renowned school but 4 of the 6 job openings you applied for require 1 year of working experience. So, of course, you wouldn’t easily get accepted. Simply put, choose opportunities wisely.

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